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Project Love

For a long time I have considered myself an alpha male, however there is one area of my life that I consider to be the most important subject and yet historically it has been considered unmanly to discuss it but here and now I lay down my thoughts about love.
True, deep, and unwavering love between a couple is the most beautiful and powerful thing in our world and yet in the modern age it has become a commodity diluting its power.
True love is not a romantic fairytale but fairytales can be inspired by real love stories.
I used to be extremely selfish but when I found my true love something switched inside me and I wanted to help her use every amazing skill and gift that she has to make her dreams come true not just my own.
Something has gone wrong in the tradition of love, sixty per cent of marriages end up in divorce, I believe because the depth of love is shallow.
When I said my vows I knew that my love was deep and everlasting no matter what changed in our life.
It makes me so angry to see tv show after tv show glorifying infidelity.
In Australia we have a rising rate of domestic violence. That is not love. My true love is that important to me that I would hurt myself before I would hurt her.
So dear readers on this Valentine's Day of love I ask each of you to join in the project of finding the love that grows our lover's souls instead of diminishing them.
By Chris Van Ingen

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